My observation has been that people who are secure in their appearance - by which I mean fully connected to and accepting of their bodies, not necessarily those society labels the most attractive - tend to find little of interest in judging others’ looks negatively. It seems an ironic but inevitable fact that the very people who pay the most lip service to how terrible it is of the patriarchy (or kyriarchy or whatever) to make demands on women’s appearance are themselves very, very invested in judging those same women.
For example, from Ariel Levy’s Female Chauvinist Pigs, when she says of anyone who has “their vaginas waxed … their breasts enlarged” : “I wish them many blissful and lubricious loops around the pole.”
In other words, Levy is fine with the idea that there are some women who get Brazilians – just as long as they are fine with the idea that she will judge them for that.
So female soldiers should just expect to be sexually assaulted?
Well… female soldiers, gal reporters, lady doctors, teacherettes, aviatrixes… That’s just the way it is when you’re a woman intruding in a man’s world. We expect to be paid slightly less and raped slightly more.